assalam alaikum
Sometimes I wonder whether I live in MY house or in my relative'S private hotel. lol :)). Alhamdulillah, we do get a break from guests for a week or even for months sometimes ;) but when the season starts almost every week is booked. We live in Tashkent and all of our relatives live in Ferghana Valley and we have big family which means even if one relative will come to Tashkent once in a year we can have new guest for every single day. I may be exaggerating but truly sometimes I feel like maid in Hotel Uzbekistan. And our guests do not come for a day, they at least stay couple of days.
We live in apartment which means every room is close to each other and everybody can hear who is going to toilet and who is taking a shower. Do you know how uncomfortable it is to get fully dressed right after taking a shower in a very narrow bathroom? And I miss going to toilet without publicly announcing it when there are male guests. When there are male guests they sit in living room with closed doors. But since I have a toddler who likes to run around the house the door is usually open, and when I need to go to toilet I have to ask my husband to close it so that I can pass the corridor to enter the toilet. And the flash, don't ask how loud it gets when flashing our toilet! lol.
Whole day I spend cooking and cooking then cooking and then cleaning and then washing the dishes, preparing the bed and then again I may be cleaning or cooking.
Alhamdulillah. I know I sound like very bad hostess right now but I really do my best to welcome my guests and until now I have heard only thanks from my guests and my husband is pleased with the way I treat our guests. And these are all due to Allaah's help. Allaah gives me sabr and strength and positiveness. But I'm human being, I get tired, exhausted, upset. I too want to have my own time if not for myself then for my son. I see how other mother's take care of their children, how much they teach and how they spent all of their time for their kids. I feel bad for not being able to give attention to my son. I feel guilty in front of him. I've promised myself to read at least on page of Qur'an everyday, but I can't keep up to that promise. When at the end of the day I open the book to read, as soon as I read I feel sleepy. :((.
alhamdulilah.
5 comments:
Assalamu alaikum sister,
I know it's hard to have so many overnight guests, but insha'Allah, your son is being raised in an environment that is rich with love and hospitality and culture. What a wonderful example for him. Sometimes, I feel so isolated and wish my kids could experience the culture from back home. May Allah make it easy for you, sister!
wa alaikum assalam Umm Omar,
Yes, you are right. Actually my son really loves when we have guests. He gets so excited and shows his favorite toys to them, his tricycle driving skills, books etc. So I should say alhamdulillah and be a good example in welcoming guests, because, as you know, as Muslims we are ordered to honor our guests. I think I got very tired this time because we had been having guests in row and they stayed for two and more weeks each.:)
JazakiAllah khair for your comment and ameen to your dua, sister.
May Allah make it easy and not difficult sis. I know exactly what you are speaking about, but you are so much more modest that I am.
You don't sound like a bad hostess at all. I on the other hand am an awful wife. At least I realize this after reading your post.
I just refuse to have guests and visitors and give my hubby a hard time...you are a wonderful wife and Muslimah, mashallah.
Masha'a'Allah ! may Allah make it easy for you ameen..
assalam alaikum
Salma- your comment made me feel so good. Thank you for your kind words and dua. My husband can't do anything to control the visits of our guests. Our guests come to our house if they are in Tashkent: some come in search of job, or have bussiness, others want to see the capital in spring break etc... But alhamdulillah, I just felt very tired and wanted to talk about it in my blog. I'm good now :), my mood is very welcoming again :).
Texan in UAE - ameen! Thank you for your comment, that is very nice of you :)! Welcome to my blog!
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